All these silly rules around marriage! At one point they said they wouldn't get married until everyone (meaning gay people) could. My husband & I attended a gay wedding & it was one of the best we'd ever been at. This was back in .. maybe 1990. Back then it was called a commitment ceremony, I believe. It was lovely. I worked at a department store with one, let's call her "D" & she wore a pretty white lace gown, her partner, let's call her "P" wore a black suit. They were nervous & excited & it was very touching.